How to Get More Sleep with a Newborn: Expert Tips from a Postpartum Doula
Bringing a newborn into the world is a wonderful and transformative experience, but it also comes with its challenges, especially when it comes to sleep. The sleep deprivation that new parents face is a well-known struggle, and many new parents find themselves asking, "How do I get my baby to sleep?"
Understanding normal newborn sleep patterns and implementing gentle, effective strategies can help you navigate this exhausting phase with more ease. Additionally, considering hiring a postpartum doula can provide invaluable support during this crucial time.
Let’s talk about some simple, yet effective things that can help you get the rest you need while caring for your newborn.
Understanding Normal Newborn Sleep Patterns
Before delving into strategies for better sleep, it's essential to understand what is considered normal when it comes to newborn sleep patterns. Newborns have their own unique sleep cycles, which are quite different from those of adults. Here are some key points to keep in mind:
Frequent Sleep-Wake Cycles: Newborns typically have sleep-wake cycles that last around 50-60 minutes. This means they may wake up every hour or so, seeking comfort, food, or a diaper change. As exhausting as it may be, this pattern is entirely normal and helps meet their rapidly growing needs.
Day-Night Confusion: Many newborns have their days and nights mixed up initially, leading to more wakefulness during the night and more daytime sleep. To help them adjust to a more typical sleep schedule, expose your baby to natural light during the day and keep nighttime interactions calm and dimly lit.
Inconsistent Sleep Length: At this stage, newborns sleep for short periods, ranging from 2 to 4 hours at a stretch. Their sleep duration may vary significantly from day to day. As their sleep patterns mature, longer stretches of sleep will gradually develop.
Effective Strategies for Getting Your Baby to Sleep
While you can't expect your newborn to sleep through the night immediately, there are several strategies you can implement to improve their sleep habits and, in turn, your own rest. The key is patience and consistency!
Create a Soothing Bedtime Routine: Establishing a consistent bedtime routine signals to your baby that it's time to wind down. Consider activities like a warm bath, gentle massage, or reading a book before placing your baby in their crib (Seasoned Mom Hot Take: Your baby isn’t exactly following for the plot at this age, so reading your own book aloud totally counts. Just… maybe not ACOTAR, okay? Let’s keep things little-ears-friendly.). Over time, this routine can help signal that sleep is approaching.
Swaddling: Swaddling can mimic the comforting feeling of being in the womb, helping to soothe and calm your newborn. However, ensure you swaddle your baby safely, leaving enough room for their hips to move and avoiding overheating.
White Noise: Soft, continuous sounds like white noise can create a soothing environment that helps babies fall asleep and stay asleep for longer periods. Make sure the volume is low and the sound source is safely away from the baby. Check out the Sleep Foundation’s recommended white noise machines for babies.
Bassinet Use: Having your baby sleep close to you in a bassinet next to your bed can ease nighttime wake-ups for feedings and diaper changes.
Understanding your baby’s cues: In the early days, your baby will likely cluster feed - that’s totally normal and does not last forever. But as you get into a routine and learn your baby’s noises, you will notice a difference between a hungry cry, a sleepy cry and an “I need to be held” cry (plus more!). The more you respond to your baby, the more you will understand what your baby is “saying”.
Check out The Consumer Products Safety Commission (CPSC) to learn more about the “do’s and don’t’s of infant sleep”. It’s also worth signing up for their emails because they are posting recalled items all the time - it’s nice to know that the products you are using are the safest ones on the market.
Hiring a Postpartum Doula for Overnight Support
One of the most beneficial decisions new parents can make during this period is hiring a postpartum doula. A postpartum doula is a trained professional who offers practical and emotional support to parents during the postpartum period. Here's how a doula can assist you:
Newborn Care Guidance: A postpartum doula is well-versed in newborn care and can provide invaluable guidance on feeding, soothing, and establishing healthy sleep habits for your baby.
Emotional Support: The postpartum period can be emotionally overwhelming, and a doula can offer a listening ear and understanding to help ease feelings of stress or isolation. A great resource if you are struggling with your mental health is Postpartum Support International - they have a helpline for parents to text or call if you are in a mental health crisis.
Rest and Self-Care: A doula can give you the opportunity to rest and take care of yourself, which is crucial for your physical and mental well-being while you adjust to life as a new parent.